I surveyed 100 humans between the ages of 13 – when hormones are crazy – and 30 – when society says “pop out a baby before it’s too late!” – on whether they perceive relationships as necessary or unnecessary to be happy.
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Relationship Advice: Dear Masculine Bae with a Mental Obstacle
Dear Masculine Bae with a Mental Obstacle,
You have a Bae who loves you, so open up to your Bae and let your Bae help you. Have compassion for your Bae who is worried sick about you, and ease into talking about your issues with your Bae. Your Bae will never know or be able to help until you start talking. Practice action-therapy vs. numb-therapy, meaning, take baby steps to confront your problems.
I dated an extremely masculine Bae one time who ignored EVERYONE when he was in a funk and just numbed out on who knows what.
Relationship Advice: Dear Bae of Bae with a Mental Obstacle
Mental obstacles are draining. They can take away all desire to live, so your Bae with a mental obstacle will probably need help researching alternative methods of self-help, therapists, help-lines, support groups, supportive bloggers, etc.
Relationship Advice: Dear Both Bae’s with Mental Obstacles
Dear Both Bae’s with Mental Obstacles,
Everyone is different, so everyone’s mental obstacles need different loving.
Well, the tables have turned and I’m dating someone who has mental obstacles as well. He gets it and he’s definitely not letting me go and dropping me off in crazy town any time soon, so, I’m stuck here figuring out how the hell this is gonna work with our two different types of depression – hence this post.
Relationship Advice: Dear Feminine Bae with a Mind Obstacle
Dear Feminine Bae with a Mind Obstacle,
Your Bae is not your therapist, Bae is your Bae. If you treat your Bae like your therapist, you will lose your Bae. Your Bae needs compassion and understanding toward your mental obstacle, but you need to have compassion and understanding towards the space that your Bae needs. Here’s how to practice space, or “non-attachment.”
If you are the one with a mind obstacle…let me tell you a story…